The Belly Rules the Mind ♡

As the type of person who would not survive if cooking was the only option to save my life! I have concluded that I shall learn how to cook in case of anything serious like a Zombie Apocalypse. Therefore, I invite you to my Food Adventure, Virundhu. Instead, I present my version of the definition, Virundhu, a feast to serve guests luxuriously. This will allow me to share my cooking perspective and serve my guests exclusively on this blog.

Most of you who have been tracking me on social media recognize how I am in the kitchen. I can’t guarantee that I haven’t burnt the house down or killed a few souls with my cooking. So let’s get things straight; I’m just a random Tamil low-key Mafia who’s in her late 20’s who can’t cook even though food is something I appreciate the most. An unfortunate story, eh? I did some deep reflection and was like; it has to be typical because my mother didn’t know how to cook particular dishes before she got married. On top of that, I never entered the kitchen unless I was starving. So why don’t I change myself where I will explore, educate and cook.

That said, the rise in food content on social media platforms is questionable—speculating if it’s due to Covid. With so many food bloggers/influencers on social media, I had personally decided to examine every food-related account that I had come across and started my analysis—mainly caused by boredom that covid had inspired me to do. I decided to go through everyone’s social media account with a neutral mind. Hopefully, with what I have monitored, I can modify and share my aspect of food content soon.

Please Excuse my face; I felt awkward.

P.S. Don’t forget to follow @Aachiteakadai on Instagram for more updates.

EP.01: Truly Yours

In a stage where I had undergone hiding, I ended up suffocating within my sorrow. Stranded in the middle of nowhere, I did try my best to grasp for whatever object drifting nearby, not knowing that it would dissolve within my fingers. Helpless for relief and exhausted from breathing, I chose to let go of my life for good. Yet, an unusual kind of flash was reaching my way …

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Being brought up in a world where darkness never existed. I never knew how negativity felt like. Of course, I got grounded, but it didn’t prevent me from being what I truly am. As a rebel, nothing could have dragged me down, no matter how much a person has attempted. However, happiness doesn’t last long.

Nevertheless, I had received such a lesson in the most crucial way ever. A child spoiled with a ton of love, food and adventures. It didn’t take that long to realize that the person you look up to will be appearing on a different path influenced by love/money. Hopes were shattered, artificial smiles were forever painted on faces; Furthermore, the conversation hardly lasted as long as it should be. Maybe that’s one reason why I withdraw myself from events. Hallucinated of remaining happy and prosperous, yet it comes with ends of its own. I was fighting vigorously to make sure that the individuals I was surrounded by were at my standards. Or was I selfishly fighting against society’s norms?

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Days passed by as my anger gradually grew within me. Watching injustice not being served and my questioning of God being real was becoming repetitious on my mind. I’m a firm believer in never leaving a loved one behind, whether they’re suffering or not? I later got involved in a circumstance where I ended up being a victim of my rival and a target for my temper. Nevertheless, it destroyed me. I ended up severely ill, nearly murdered by my thoughts. Who will ever accept me nor my stories? In bed with no strength, loss of appetite and having trouble inhaling. I realized how beautiful death could be. Yet, God has a plan of their own.

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The healing process caused a living in my own space extremely comfortable that I had neglected my true self. It permitted me to escape from obstacles. Yet, the truth is that it will always be best to leave the comfort to accomplish specific intentions. I always taught myself never to let go of my dreams, regardless of how deadly the situation is. My milestones consist of a ton of drowning and sometimes being buried under the sea. I did eventually come out alive. The moral of this post is that you won’t see what you’re capable of until you encounter something in life. I manage to take life into my own hands, learn from my mistakes, and observe every red signal that will make me safe in specific issues in life. Perhaps, I meant to stay in the deep end cause I needed to isolate myself for me to rebloom. Just like my favourite professor would always say, you won’t be able to reach your destiny unless you find your weakness.

P.s. I’m aware that this Blog post may be confusing as it has a hidden message for my Special Human.

Viewer Discretion is Advised

During the past nine years, “The Duchess of Ceylon” has faced various obstacles and outgrowths. Moving forward, the Blog itself recognized it had been incomplete due to the variety of readers that it held. Hopefully, the new and renewed Blog has served you somehow with the criticism I perceived. Hence, we have made it best for our readers to take part in the Blog.

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The following modifications on this Blog are:

Google Translate: You can now read the Blog in various languages. Please note that “The Duchess of Ceylon” will not participate in any grammar or misunderstanding caused by the Translator App. Google translate is supposed to assist you in understanding what I compose; However, it might mislead you as most technologies have not been established correctly.

Text to Speech: Due to circumstances, most of us don’t have the opportunity to read due to our schedule, or it might be that we might have difficulty reading due to specific requirements. Therefore, the Blog has made it simpler for you not to miss out!

Caution: The Blog post may not be silly as it used to be. If you do feel uncomfortable, please dismiss the post as I do not wish to harm your emotions in whatever way since the Blog may be based on real-life incidents.

Review & Opinions: Most of the Products or specific Events are based on my perspective.Sadly, I understand that not all humans are the same when it comes to having opinions or having the same purpose. 

Episodes: Episodes are my way to control my OCD issues as I believe in perfection. Hence, you will see multiple usual posts that I had re-edited and reposted. Furthermore, if there are specific posts that you are searching for, please explore in the “Search” button.

Therefore, I have concluded my message and will post my first episode soon.

Sincerely, 
The Duchess of Ceylon

Aachi Tea Kaadai

Most of my customers get excited when they see me working. It tends to freaks me out a bit cause I don’t know them that well to have them hyped up, right? I remember asking them “why are you excited to see me?”, confusingly. They told me that, the whole building has spoken about the food and drink, I prepare for them. It doesn’t matter if you did it in proper steps, it’s was just too unique for them. Since it was me, I smiled and made them their teas and gave it to them with a huge grin. I was in deep thoughts. I thought they were joking around. I even thought how different the drinks I make from my coworkers to the way I make it. I ended the thoughts by thinking it was some kind compliment. Later on, my favourite customer randomly came and spoke to me regarding his shift and of course his food, lol. As I finish making his food, I told him the story of what the other people have mentioned about my so-called mysterious talent. He told me that they were right and he’s 100% sure that they aren’t joking. I guess the answer to your delicious food and drinks is that I make it with love.

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So I officially came to a conclusion to prepare myself to drop out of law school, just to open a tea kadai (also known as a tea store). Imagine how much customers I’ll get just to have ppl wanting me to make their own drinks. I feel soo evil lol.

Sadly, I haven’t came across a tea kadai in Sri Lanka. But in India, they have a ton of them.

 

My Life as a Bitch.

So here I am tryna mind my own business and helping people out with their issues even though I’m currently growing in a place where two of my favourite people has broke-up which means I’m having trouble being there for both person and its such a huge pressure. Let’s not forget that my favourite uncle and aunty who I somewhat adopted is leaving me soon which hurts me in so many ways. Cause, I’m not close with any of my relatives except the ones in Sri Lanka and knowing that I am attached to them makes me wanna throw trauma so they won’t leave but it’s me. Trust me, I tried my best to stop being clingy by focusing on myself which eventually worked. Yet, I’m still thinking about them day and night 😦 .Trying to get my lifestyle straight for now…

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However, I was told to help someone who trusted me and I did. But it got to the point where the person was trying to control and start picking on me aka emotionally abusing me. Imagine picking on a real-life Satan whose minding her own business. Yeah, that’s how my actual character is. I could destroy a person life within seconds. Since my dad and my fav bros always taught me to be patient and not to be a bitch. I did on what as told. Regardless, how much you try, being a good kid, I hate hearing rumours about me. All those things they plan to do me while the main person is away. How am I suppose to react to it.

Shall I tell the “main person” on whats happening? Will she believe me? Do I go on vacation and break her promise? Or should I just deal with it cause God and Karma exist?

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Either way, I’m really liking this new lifestyle. Inhaling the smoke and watching it flow endlessly from my mouth as I’m in serious, with my deep thoughts. My bro has no clue about whats going on cause I decided to be lowkey and didn’t felt like being a crybaby, which I’m naturally am when he’s around. I’m currently insecure and have a ton of acne due to stress and being broken, so most of my soul is packed away til someone can be like

“OMG, You Really Need Me In Your Life!!!

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If I had to be brutally honest, I’ve never trusted anyone or will ever be close with anyone besides my brothers. I don’t ever think they’ll leave me for something else or betray me in any kinds of way. Eventhough, I’m extremely clingy to them and they know that they’re my only friends I got. I don’t think, I’ll get amazing friends like them.

A friend came up to me to warn me about what they had mention to her which is to hurt my feelings by doing certain things to me. The funny part was that she told them that

“Do you really think she cares if you do stuff like that to her “.

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I guess that’s something I love about myself. Gosh, I love myself. But Seriously, my anger is still lingering on to me. Why would they wish to destroy me when I did nothing and helped them when they had serious personal problems of their own.

Like ARGHHH!!!

Therefore, I came to a conclusion that I permanently will remain as a bitch. Which means that you won’t be seeing such a thing called a sweet person in my case. According to Wikipedia, it mentions that it can indicate a strong or assertive woman. So I guess, I’m gonna keep that as my nickname. Jokes. I just wanna be me and I decided that I’m no longer talking to anyone and keeping my distance with humans unless I feel like they need someone to talk to. Besides that I should be fine cause like I said from the beginning, I have four amazing bros to annoy the shit out.

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Why I consider myself as a Sri Lankan, not Tamil

Whenever I tell people that I’m a Sri Lankan. People of my kind tend to stare at me weirdly and corrects me by telling me that I’m a Tamil. I do mention elderly Tamil people that I’m Tamil so it would be easier for them to communicate. So let me allow you to step into my life as I post interesting free pics which is not part of my copyright regarding on my journey in life. Maybe it will allow you to understand me a bit better.

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So years ago, my mother aka amma planned to give birth to me. Due to Circumstances, my mother travelled all the way from Jaffna to give birth to a Legend, in south Sri Lanka. imagine those fire routes, LTTE and the Sri Lankan army during that time. Seems scary, isn’t it?
Anywayz, I arrived in Canada and eventually got to be exposed to all sorts of religion and was grew up with a ton of amazing Sri Lankan family. I was raised by a Tamil Christian family and Sinhala family. practically grew up with my cousin who was Hindu and family friends that were Tamil Muslims. The best part was that I was in the hands of no harm and was not killed. (being sarcastic and rolling my eyes)

 

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I guess, changing to more than 5 schools seemed stressful cause I was either had more friends, had no friends, bullied or maybe had the world against me. I was upset but I didn’t really give a shit.

When the Tamil genocide started, I was getting bullied by anyone who was Tamil and if you weren’t Tamil, it was your lucky day. I was practically emotionally bullied. Believe it or not, I got to see a ton of false Tamil considering themselves as Tamil Tigers or being a pro-Tamil. Sadly, I’m seeing it on Social media. Even though I was born as a Sri Lankan Tamil and was from Jaffna. Their excuse was that I had to born in “TAMIL EELAM” to be a Tamil. In this case, I wasn’t. As you grow older, you tend to wonder how stupid they were. Cause according to the words they mentioned, they were born outside of “TAMIL EELAM” so they “THEMSELVES” would not be considered as a Tamil. But since it’s me I don’t give a shit. This continued til the world has released a news which is false that “The LTTE Leader has been killed”. However, the Non-Tamils continued to get on my nerves. If I had to be brutally honest, I did got to see the people who truly cared and still managed to be my friends thru all that. btw, this is when I start considering myself as a Sri Lankan Tamil cause I was a teen and was heartbroken. Plus, I wasn’t a huge fan of people picking on the Sinhalese either. That’s how my conclusion to that came.

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Recently, I had followed a pro-Tamil person and I actually enjoyed everything til I found out that I felt extremely uncomfortable. Dragging Tamil people down, showing hate towards the light skin Tamil people which felt that I was accepting something that I was personally against. the person was also proving me wrong on why I should become a Tamil and not a Sri Lankan.I was later considered confused and strange to them. I later saw social media celebs showing hate on the word “Sri Lankan”. It was annoying and I personally felt that the Tamil people who were telling the world that they were part of the Tigers got on my nerves. I personally didn’t want hatred. But this is what I can personally say to all those pro-Tamil and false Tamil tigers.

Will do a quick history of our Sri Lankan war regarding on what had happened in a different post.

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The Tamil Tigers who ruled Jaffna at the time had people under control. There were “things” that happened but it wasn’t serious. Everyone was under control. No one spread hatred to one to another. Food was given and shared. They made programs where its called a masterclass at the moment where people got to learn thing for free. it was safe for a female to walk down the street knowing that no men would whistle at her. there so much more but it takes a real human to know. I heard a few stories regarding about them and I will accept them since the LTTE leader had apologized back then regarding about the Muslim Tamil. The main point of the Tamil Tigers was that they wanted a peaceful country and have an independent place where we have an actual identity. This has nothing to do with the Sinhalese people at all. Its based on the government, the British royal and the foreigner who raided Sri Lanka. We’re just recreating a new problem for a community where we can end it the easy way. Not all problems are permanent, just remember. The main point of this blog is to show how better us humans can do by being united.

It Takes nothing to join the crowd, it takes everything to stand alone. Hans F.Hansen

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Few Changes

I want to keep my blog real. where I can be able to talk about real things like war, money, poverty, love, prostitutes, LGBT, Serial killers, Paranormal, Racism, discrimination and much more….

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Maybe change the world and make it a better place. The main reason why people are degrading people is that no one has learned to understand or educate themselves. There’s an actual power to that. I will continue to do make blogs about beauty, my thoughts, lifestyle and food as well as Serious issues that are happening to the world. You don’t need to accept the things I say and I will perfectly fine cause it’s better to be different. Btw, I did some serious research and had interviewed people within that category so you can sense how it is to be standing in their shoes.

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P.s. What made me have sudden thoughts like this is that… There’s no point in me studying Law if I haven’t done my part especially when I have power in Social Media.

P.s.s. I think that’s how I would end up looking after I have people arguing and going against me for giving a voice to people who have none.

Scared to Shit!!!

Due to my own personal privacy, I do not want to tell you what location I was or where I was at. So here’s the story…

My mother told me to call her before I left work. So I was trying to multi-task before going to the bathroom. Cause I’m the type of person who would walk slowly cause I love admiring things aka adhi adhi nathukhu. So while walking, someone actually picked up the phone. It was a guy voice and was shaky like if it was windy or something. I was like thinking that no one has a rough voice like that in my fam. So I looked at my phone and its still dialling to my amma and I was like hello and he was like hello and I was like shit. I’m talking to a ghost. And my phone is a prepaid phone so I cut the phone and ran to the door. But the door has a password so I had to take a long way. I was thinking don’t be scared but I swear a teardrop just rolled down my eyes. My amma called me and asked how come I didn’t pick up the phone. Didn’t you speak to me? I asked curiously hoping it was her. She was like no and I was scared more than before. I kept everything to myself til I was ready. I seriously felt that this ghost that I spoke on the phone may be a demon or so. So, I told my mom every single detail and etc. She was like stop being crazy its a double connection, it’s extremely normal. Had the same problem a few times. Since then my soul was relaxed.

P.s. You might wonder why I was bringing a phone while heading to the washroom. Well, the place I work at has a female washroom stall, I think that’s what its called. Whats cool about it is that it’s private and I can leave a wallet or my handbag on the counters and no one will try to steal it.

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10 Facts about Anulakshmi Vaira

1.) The name Anulakshmi is given to me by the Tamil seniors while doing co-op at the senior home cause apparently, my actual name didn’t suit me. I later used that name and added one of my ancestor name Vaira cause I wanted to know how much I was worth.

2.) I was born in Colombo, Sri Lanka and arrived in Canada when I was 3 months old.

3.) I’m allergic to anything that forces me to not be myself, makes me feel insecure and has the chance for certain people to downgrade myself.

4.) I had depression for a very long time, ended up doing self-harm to make me feel better which lead me to attempt suicide which I failed numerously. I sadly had to accept that I was a failure in life. It got to the point where I had to take medication to heal which actually worked but I realized that I was the kind of person who relied on and needed meds after a few months. So I prevented myself from going on meds and practically the old and unhappy version of myself.
I personally felt and had to accept the fact that I was born to be sad. P.S. The best cure for a person to deal with depression is love (a.k.a. anbu and pasam)

5.) I have an on and off relationship with Carnatic music. Sounds weird right? I pursue singing when I was 3- 4 years old and quit cause I wasn’t a huge fan. Pursue singing again when I was 21 years old, later I chose to quit due to health issues. Now, I will be pursuing singing again once I finish school.

6.) I couldn’t speak til I was 7 years old and now my family is trying to shut me up due to the fact that I’m a chatterbox lol.

7.) According to the urban words, I have OCD. Like I literally hate messy room or unorganized pieces of material. It totally kills my vibes especially when I’m exhausted or have no time to do so. At times, I accidentally or might end up cleaning up people mess at their own house cause that’s how irritated I am or maybe I’m just bored.

8.) In a world where people uses each other for their needs, I live in a low key lifestyle where I don’t rely on people for company or money. I live a life where the people express love, positivity and have a great vibe. Who knows, I might be surrounded with Mafias 😉

9.) I don’t believe in relationships such as soulmates, family or friends. I personally think its fake. No ones loyal in this life except your parents. But there are a few real people who love you regardless and I love them for that. #majortrustissues

10.) I get mad very easily but I forgive cause no one’s perfect.

 

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Lip Exfoliator

Lip exfoliator is used to remove dry, dead skin from your lips. For an example, your lips can look dry, rough or chapped where an exfoliator is needed to remove the dead skin cells.

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The cause for dry, rough or chapped lips are by
– Lack of moisture
– Extreme Winds
– Lots of direct sunlight
– Lack of self-care.

Damaged lips can have many symptoms like excessive dryness, swelling, burning or bleeding.

Main three tips for exfoliating your lips:
1.) Be Gentle
2.) Don’t over exfoliate
3.) Always moisture after exfoliating

Here are some ways to get moist and pulpier lips:
– The Toothbrush 
– Lip Scrub
– Wash Cloth

Techniques:

The Toothbrush 
When the Toothbrush trend did come out. I, myself, did try it.
You must have a separate toothbrush for your teeth and lips cause we don’t any cross contamination. In order to use this technique, you must add oil or lip balm such petroleum jelly on your lips and brush the dead skin away, gently. Wipe off the access and apply lip balm on the lips should be silky smooth by now.

Personally, I’m against the toothbrush technique cause our lips are very sensitive.The person who brushes their lips tends to scare me.

Lip Scrub
The Lip scrub is usually made out of sugar, coffee grounds or oatmeal. Other ingredients are added depending on what the person would like to receive on the outcome of the product. I bought my lip scrub at Lush Cosmetics and I actually love plus its edible #awks.

In order to use the lip scrub, you must apply the “mix” on your lips and rub it in a circular motion for 2-3 minutes. Then you can wash your lips with water. Apparently, your suppose to do this once or twice a week. But in my case, I just do it when its dry.

Wash Cloth
Call me weird but I prefer the washcloth technique over anything. Or maybe, its the fact I’m lazy.

I only use the Washcloth technique after I had taken a shower or wash my face. It works perfectly and scrubs the dead cells on the surface of the lips away. I see better results in this technique.

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The benefits of exfoliating is
– Even out lips discolouration such as dark spots and melanin pigmentation
– Will receive a healthy and natural look.

Tips
– Always apply moisturizer like chapstick, petroleum jelly or balm.
– Never lick your lips after applying lip balm cause it takes the moisture away
– Scrub the lips softly especially when you’re using the toothbrush technique.

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Don’t forget to comment below on your favourite technique or products that you use to exfoliate your lips.